You meet a nice guy and everything goes great. You give him your phone number and don’t hear from him for a week. Then, at the last minute, he changes his plans for no good reason. He asks you to hang out with him and his friends and then you end up watching football at a strip bar. He no longer responds to your texts or calls you when he promised he would. Men play all kinds of games and this article will help you understand them.
They think, eat and speak differently. Once you realize this, everything becomes much easier. Don’t read too much into what they say or do. It’s usually not that complicated.
If you stay calm, cool and collected, you win. If you become an emotional bundle of nerves, he wins and tells all his friends what a psycho chicken you are. Surprise him and show him that you are in control of your emotions. Most women don’t have it, and he’ll respect you a lot more if you don’t yell at him and slam the doors. If he puts you in a situation that makes you uncomfortable, tell him.
If you accept this, everything runs much easier for you. In the beginning, he will pull out all the stops. He holds the door for you, invites you to dinner and lets you choose the movie. Then it gets boring. He wants to change the routine, so he doesn’t answer you right away to get a reaction. If you freak out and give him the attention he demands, you’re encouraging that behavior. Do the same to him. Don’t always be available. Have a life and keep being an interesting person regardless of any man.
Men like to think they are logical and women like to think they are emotional. While this may be true, it is not always the case. You cannot take care of others if you cannot take care of yourself. Don’t drop your life for a guy. Never. Men’s number one complaint is that women let their entire lives revolve around one guy. Don’t be that woman. Have hobbies, hang out with your friends, cook, do whatever makes you happy and keeps you busy. When you find a guy special enough, make time for him. That’s what men do. They live their life and when they meet a woman they like, they will put her in their life.
Most of the time it’s not because he doesn’t love you, it’s because he wants to get a reaction. If you give him the typically female reaction, then you’ve fallen into a trap. If you catch him looking at another woman, recognize it and move on. Say “she’s really pretty” and then change the subject. He won’t know what to do.
They say what they mean and they mean what they say. When you do this as a woman, communication takes on a whole new level. Don’t drop hints or expect him to read your mind. If you want something, ask for it. If you’re upset about something he did, tell him, discuss it, and move on. Pouting and being angry won’t help and he won’t know what he did wrong if you don’t say anything.
He won’t reply to your texts directly because he wants you to realize that he has a life alongside you. It’s important that you have a life alongside him. Don’t always take his calls straight away, and if you already have plans with friends and he wants to go out with you, don’t cancel your plans! Shocking, I know, but most women drop everything they do for a guy. A guy wouldn’t do that. He would be logical, sticking to his original plans and postponing the meeting for another day.
This equates you with a work situation, which is logical. Then drop it and move on. Women tend to chew things over and over again, and it’s annoying. If he cancels again, make other plans and stick with it.
They want what they can’t have. That’s why they try so hard to impress you in the beginning and once they have you it’s like they have no more rewards. You must give him this reward. When you go out with friends or run errands, dress nicely and wear makeup. never let you go Always let him see you for the amazing woman you are. Make him think he might lose you, so he always makes an effort to keep you.
Be strong and independent. Most men are attracted to women they know they can live without, which means they’re not looking for a savior or a sugar daddy. If you don’t usually wear makeup, don’t start doing it just to impress him. If it’s not your style, don’t. If a man does something you don’t like, don’t react until you’ve thought about the reasons behind his actions. Be logical and calm. Take your time formulating an answer. Don’t hate the player or the game. Learn the rules and you win! Think about the way men react to things. Then think about the way you reacted to a bad situation. do you spot a difference and have a life of your own. You have to be available, but you have to let go. Don’t get completely absorbed in the game. It takes practice, but after a while, it’s not a game anymore. You are an individual being and it happens when it happens. Let it happen, but don’t force it.
Don’t act clingy or needy. If you call him too often or check him up – that’s what mothers are for. Don’t be overly distant. Show some interest and then back off and he’ll come back and want more. That’s what men do. Don’t put men down or say things like “men are pigs”. He takes over your setting and evaluates it. You wouldn’t want to be involved with a man who hates women, would you?